Since the existance of man in the planet Earth, scientists had been investigating all the characteristics that makes humans different from the rests of all species in this planet. We have learned that humans develop their own personalities that differenciates from one human to another by his/hers unique experiences with family, community, and organizations. Each individual develops his culture by being expose to these different groups. What means that humans are made to co-exists in groups.
This can answer why people try so hard to fit in these groups. In these groups there is some one or few selected individuals chosen by this particular human bean that share and have things in common. This type of relationship is called friendship. Friends are very important in an individuals life. Alot of people refer to a a friend as a dollar in your pocket. Saying that this type of relationship doesn't really exist. And society teaches you that a friend is tested when you are in need.
When you have the privilege to have a friend his/her company will always be there for you. Friends that don't judge, critize or lie to you. So maybe its easy to be social sometimes, but it's so hard to preserve this type of relationship.
I think people that are alone and that are alone for quite some time, usually are the ones that are too picky and that have a lot of personality issues that really turn people off from wanting to get into a relationship with them. For instance, I know someone that is just desparate for a man, but their needy, stalkerish, annoying and think that each and every man they come into contact with wants them and is just too afraid to say so. However, she refuses to try and meet people and to be civil. How is it possible to meet someone and get with someone if you're not willing to meet anyone? I really don't think they'll ever find anyone with the attitude and with not trying to meet people.
ReplyDeleteI think some people are more comfortable in a relationship but not a relationship that will cause them to be upset and unhappy. It is truly better to be alone than in a bad relationship and some people are not made to play well with others. For some of them even though they might be lonely they are probably better off than being in a bad relationship.
I appreciate your comment. It is so true...That is a very good question...How is it possible to meet someone and get with someone if you're not willing to meet anyone?
ReplyDeleteI'm inspired to write something on this topic...Keep in touch.